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Friends - Handle With Care |
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Written by Tony
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Wednesday, 18 June 2008 19:14 |
 Friendship is a gift that can be treasured for a lifetime. If you have a friend, you are lucky. You can share your thoughts, desires and even your emotions with your friend. Trust me. There are many who sulk alone. They do not have friends.
As with any other relation, friendship too is vulnerable to conflicts. Conflicts arise due to different reasons. However, friends are known to bury the conflict and remain friends forever. But the best thing is to avoid the conflict at any cost.
Ego is one of the main factors leading to conflicts in friendships. Never let your ego eclipse the friendship. Being humble does not mean that you do not have self-esteem. But too much of self-esteem is called ego, which often hurts others.
Closeness in friendship helps friends to understand each other. Try to be as close possible. In this case, even if you make a mistake, your friend can understand your mental situation without making matters worse. Closeness can also be achieved by keeping in touch with your friend using phone, in case you do not have much time to spare.
Friends respect each other's point of view. You may have a different point of view. But remember, different points complement each other. You need not see eye to eye everywhere.
Learn to Listen. This will help you to better understand your friend. Furthermore, you can refrain from arguing once you know the reason behind your friend's acts. Arguments tend to leave a bitter taste in minds of people. For friendships, this may prove fatal.
Some friends tend to moralize their counterparts so that they can relate themselves to their friends. Moralizing, if too much, can have negative effects on friendship. Remember that no two people can have the same personalities.
Friendship is based on the trust that you develop in your friend. A small breach of trust can ruin even the strongest friendship. Never let down the trust that your friend has in you.
Everybody has his or her own weakness. Friends often want to help each other and in doing so, may overemphasize the weakness. It is good to help your friend improve, that is, only when he or she is willing. If you constantly remind him of his or her weakness, your friend may start avoiding you.
Success is meant to be celebrated. Just like the problems that your friend shares with you, success of your friend also needs attention. In case you do not notice the success or if you resent it, your friend may think that you are being proud. Never resent a friend's success. Celebrate it in whatever way you want.
There are times in friendship when one cannot keep his or her promise. Learn to be flexible. It is not always possible to fulfill promises. Flexibility allows you to accept the behavior of your friend in case he breaks a promise.
Do not expect your friendship to grow overnight. Good friendship takes time. You may know that a river achieves depth only if water has flown over a considerable period. Give your friend the space and time he or she needs.
It is true that even after following the above rules, conflicts may occur. In case a conflict arises, try to talk it over. Talk it over the same day instead of taking more time. A wound hurts more if it is old and takes more time to heal.
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